Researches are showing that only 36 percent of children born out in extramarital union are living with both parents during childhood, while 70 per cent of children born in wedlock entire childhood spent with both parents. That is why many people think that marriage is the most important factor in the relation of father-child.
Family system
Sociologists often highlight the role of fathers in the family system and how their actions affect the environment in which the child grows. One of the most important influence of father on family is how is he treating the mother of his child. Children observe the behavior of their fathers towards their family and later their relationships are built in the same way. Many do not know, but the relationship between mother and father greatly affects the relationships between mother and child. Because of this relationship, parents who are in strong and good relations become good parents.
Children of divorced parents
Statistics on the number of children who do not live with their fathers is becoming a major concern. This is very bad, because the results are showing that children are more successful, reliable and socially responsible if they grew up with both parents. However, this rule does not apply to all families with one parent. Psychologists are warning that children are complaining that they have lack of parental care because there have no father figure. Fathers who do not live with their children are less accessible for nurturing children, taking them to the school ... In the case of divorce, some mothers limit the time kids can spend with their fathers, which is not good. It is also interesting that fathers who have children in extramarital union are more often seeing their children than those who were married and then separated. Despite these disadvantages, divorced fathers should make an effort to spend as much time with their children as they can. First they should provide adequate financial support, because studies have shown that children whose fathers pay child support have better results in school and fewer behavioral problems than children of divorced parents who do not receive alimony. Children who remain in contact with their fathers after divorce are achieving better results in all fields. Therefore, mothers should ease up and to allow fathers to help children around homework, to take them to school and have responsibility for their children.
Marriage and extramarital union
The role of marriage as the base for family life has become controversial. More and more people are living together before marriage, and when they become parents they do not want to get married, jet they continue to live as before the arrival of the baby. Some people say that marriage is "just a piece of paper" and it makes no difference between them and children whose parents are married. For some couples, it's true. However, studies have shown that the majority of unmarried partners do not pay enough attention to each other, and such relationship is later transferred to their children. Researches are showing that only 36 percent of children born out in extramarital union are living with both parents during childhood, while 70 per cent of children born in wedlock entire childhood spent with both parents. That is why many people think that marriage is the most important factor in the relation of father-child.
Persistence is good parenting
Most children will achieve the best results when mothers and fathers participate in all spheres of their growing up. Psychologists call this authoritative parenting. This style of parenting involves spending a lot of time with children, providing emotional support, daily assistance, monitoring children's behavior and preserving a consistent and commensurate discipline. This can be compared with the tolerant parents, where parents avoid setting standards and limitations. Therefore, many claim that the best way of education of children is authoritative parenting. In this case, both parents have an equal role in education. Mothers give emotional warmth to children, while fathers provide a strong sense of security. Mothers provide unconditional love, for which children often must obtain permission from the father. Therefore, mothers and fathers have equally important role in the education of of their children.
source: Bebac.com
translator: MD Vladimir Comagic
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